Comments on: Response: When is a One-Night Stand Worth it for a Woman? http://www.holisticwithhumor.com/response-when-is-a-one-night-stand-worth-it-for-a-woman Living Holistically means incorporating all aspects of yourself – your mind, body, spirit, community and environment. Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:38:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: connie http://www.holisticwithhumor.com/response-when-is-a-one-night-stand-worth-it-for-a-woman/comment-page-1#comment-565 connie Tue, 17 Nov 2009 19:51:07 +0000 http://www.holisticwithhumor.com/?p=1575#comment-565 I have been interested in giving this a try, even though I am a bit older, age might be a benefit depending on the guy. Just where does one go to find employment as a dominatrix? I have been interested in giving this a try, even though I am a bit older, age might be a benefit depending on the guy. Just where does one go to find employment as a dominatrix?

]]> By: christine http://www.holisticwithhumor.com/response-when-is-a-one-night-stand-worth-it-for-a-woman/comment-page-1#comment-139 christine Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:27:20 +0000 http://www.holisticwithhumor.com/?p=1575#comment-139 Part of me wishes I had the balls (no pun intended) to be a Dominatrix (I can imagine there are actually quite a few women who feel this way). I think that the empowerment you speak of, Mia, whether from a successful one-night stand or from working in the field, is something that can affect many layers of a woman, showing up positively outside of the bedroom, or through demanding more in it. My problem has always been the feelings that inevitably surface when I share physical intimacy with someone. I understand that for other people, the lines can blur and blend a bit more. But for me, I'm left with a craving for the deeper aspects that come with sex--the chatting, dirty or otherwise; the sweetness of a gentle touch; even the embarrassment of things going wrong that turn into a long-standing inside joke. I guess for me, getting physical means giving over a part of myself that I reserve for those I believe deserve this type of access. There have been times where I try and disconnect, and take it for what it is, but those nights are ones I have felt either regret (because it's opened up a can of worms I now have to deal with), long-term longing, or feeling even more lonely afterward. Thanks for your view, because I think there are probably many women out there who can relate. That is the cool and amazing thing about being a woman--we are all so different, and hopefully take the time to contemplate why we feel the way we do. Onward and upward! Part of me wishes I had the balls (no pun intended) to be a Dominatrix (I can imagine there are actually quite a few women who feel this way). I think that the empowerment you speak of, Mia, whether from a successful one-night stand or from working in the field, is something that can affect many layers of a woman, showing up positively outside of the bedroom, or through demanding more in it.

My problem has always been the feelings that inevitably surface when I share physical intimacy with someone. I understand that for other people, the lines can blur and blend a bit more. But for me, I’m left with a craving for the deeper aspects that come with sex–the chatting, dirty or otherwise; the sweetness of a gentle touch; even the embarrassment of things going wrong that turn into a long-standing inside joke. I guess for me, getting physical means giving over a part of myself that I reserve for those I believe deserve this type of access. There have been times where I try and disconnect, and take it for what it is, but those nights are ones I have felt either regret (because it’s opened up a can of worms I now have to deal with), long-term longing, or feeling even more lonely afterward.

Thanks for your view, because I think there are probably many women out there who can relate. That is the cool and amazing thing about being a woman–we are all so different, and hopefully take the time to contemplate why we feel the way we do. Onward and upward!

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