Discipline is remembering what you really want. This is a mantra that recently resurfaced in my life, and runs incessantly through my head as a reminder of my daily choices. How many times do we answer the phone or text message out of guilt, even though we cringe at the thought of talking to that person? How often does one consume that last bag of chips or eat those extra cookies because we think, “I can get back on track tomorrow?” Or better yet, how many of us come home exhausted from what feels like a lifetime at an unfulfilling job, only to venture back out to a friend’s gathering because we fear they will be offended if we don’t show? I speak of such occurrences because these instances in my own life create ill health and imbalance. When I sell my intuition, or “inner knowing” short, I give my energy to that which does not serve me.

Have you ever wanted to change something in your life, but aren’t sure which path to choose or decision to make? Want better options or to make sense of the ones you currently have? What about learning how to go with the flow? The answer to each of these questions is the same: Use your intuition. We all have it. In fact, intuition is one of the main, but often overlooked, senses. Like any muscle, it just needs to be used. When you do, it is one of the strongest, fastest, and clearest ways of knowing the next best step for your life. So let’s get started on how to do exactly that.

Last week, this was my status on Facebook: Why do I feel so guilty when I don’t talk to the men I don’t want to talk to? I was simply airing my angst at having gone back and forth with a slightly, no, fairly pushy man I had met a couple of weeks before. When he first talked to me in a cafe (where I spend the majority of my life), I was writing a piece that had to be finished in the next couple of hours. I pleasantly answered his questions, while constantly averting my eyes back down to my computer and starting to type once again. He then asked if I mountain biked, and I said no. “Hike?” Yes. “Well, let’s do the number exchange thing and we can go hiking.” Ummm, was that a question? Have I given any indication that I’m interested in hanging out?