Research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. But is it just as important to notice your judgments of others?

Realizing that Perfection is observing my own unique characteristics, weaknesses and strengths, attractions and repulsions, and allowing myself to be just like this, with no agenda for any of it to change, but just to choose the most inspiring and non-violent paths open to me to experience this unique collection of my ‘ways’, easy and challenging, in a creative, fun and loving life.

There are well-defined steps to dealing with grief of death, which you can process through at weekly therapy sessions or in a local group that meets in the basement of a church on Tuesday nights. We cry longingly in private; we show only a glimpse of the tear in the heart tissues at some work retreat that forces a bonding moment. Steps are well-defined because 1. grief takes such a seemingly insurmountable toll and 2. death is common. Any one of us will experience the death of dozens of people during our lifetime.