As she sits in the warm pool at a hot springs oasis in the city, Christine Garvin is moved to write a love poem to her body. She highly recommends it.

One of my co-editors at Matador, Carlo Alcos, took a particular disliking to a piece I wrote a couple of months ago called, Dating in 2010: Is it All Four-Man Plans and Online Shenanigans? Well, maybe dislike is a strong word, but it certainly triggered him. So we decided to hash-it-out, mano a mano, in the classy, mature way – on a blog for everyone to see.

So it turns out “neurology is not destiny” – at least according to William Harryman. Oh, and a little ole’ study at Rockefeller University. Lotsa big words later, it seems that what all those crazy folks who’ve been saying, “the only thing that holds you back is your mind” were right. Or wait…wrong? Well, whatever. The study basically determined that our brains are not, as we thought, fixed in their wiring early in life, but rather change based on experiences we have and/or are participate in throughout our lives.