20 Questions for Every Spiritual Seeker – with Answers
Last week, my cohort over at Brave New Traveler, Founder/Editor Ian MacKenzie, wrote a piece that presented 20 Questions For Every Spiritual Seeker.
Noticing how his spirituality had changed throughout his 20s, he had this to say:
Now, looking back 8 years later, I realize it would have been interesting to chronicle my worldview at that time. Like a spiritual diary, I would have been able to study where I came from, and better understand my personal evolution.
Good point.
I think this is a great exercise for anyone who is spiritually searching (and really, on some level, who isn’t?), and I look forward to seeing how my own answers change over the next five, ten, fifteen years.
I would also love to see your answers, either in the comments section at the bottom of this post, or on your own blog (make sure to return here and post your link in the comments section below and at BNT).
Ok, here we go:
1. Why is there poverty and suffering in the world?
Unfortunately, I believe that richness and happiness, and poverty and suffering, will always exist. To some extent, both sides of the same coin motivate us to keep moving forward. I hate to fall into a dualistic state of mind, but I also believe poverty, suffering, richness and happiness are all states of mind.
This is not to imply that pain does not exist; that the physical realities of rape, murder, starvation, being buried alive, dying in a plane crash, being beaten senseless by one’s partner, etc., etc. are not horrible parts of human existence. But I think of people like Elie Wiesel, Ghandi, and even Eckhart Tolle, who have shown how the power of the mind can overcome any obstacle. Our reality, even if we are in poverty, can feel rich depending on how we look at things.
At the same time, I do believe we must feel our pain to transcend it, and it pushes us forward–for better or for worse depends on what we do with it.
2. What is the relationship between science and religion?
Science works with our mind; religion (or spirit; that is how I prefer to look at it) is about something our mind can’t touch–it’s a deeper knowing and connection to all things. Because it is so hard for our minds to grasp something that it essentially can’t grasp, we need science to physically prove the existence of what is existential. Often we realize that the more we know, the less we know.
So in some ways, I believe science can lead to a deeper spiritual self, because you realize there is so much that can’t be explained. We try and try again to give physical meaning to these pieces of life that are constantly in flux.
3. Why are so many people depressed?
Because of capitalism. Sorry, but it’s what I honestly believe. My generation has been taught since the day we were born that what will bring us happiness can be bought.
For example, as a woman living in the United States, I have spent at least the last 18 years believing my body wasn’t beautiful as it was. I’ve been taught that my curves, in places that are NOT accepted, such as my stomach or my thighs, are wrong. And their existence keeps me from being considered “beautiful” while making me less appealing and worthy (i.e. I’d be more worthy if I worked my ass off–literally–to have no stomach and thighs).
Guess what, though? I could easily buy my way to that society-deemed beauty, whether through diet pills or the latest cleanse; liposuction or anorexia (and yes, I believe eating disorders are very much an ACCEPTED part of western society, at least until they kill). Or I could buy my way to dealing with whatever ails me, after being told to me that it ails me, beginning by making me sad that I’m different, not enough, and won’t be loved for who I am.
Plus, don’t forget the stress I have to endure as I try and make the money to buy the things that will make me happier. And all that time doing all that work keeps me from spending enough time with my family and friends, which makes me even more sad, and feel that sense of loneliness.
4. What are we all so afraid of?
Rejection, feeling we are wrong, being without something that fulfills us.
5. When is war justifiable?
I don’t believe it ever is. War is a construction based on what we believe is worth killing for. If no one believed that there was ANYTHING worth killing for (land, money, power are the big three), then war would not exist, plain and simple.
6. How would God want us to respond to aggression and terrorism?
I like to take the word God out and replace it with the Universe (what can I say? I’m a reformed Catholic). There is great power in being able to respond to aggression and terrorism with humility and respect, and I think it is extremely hard as a human being to get down to that place (our minds take over too easily). But I do think we are capable. The more we have compassion, the less we have aggression.
7. How does one obtain true peace?
I’m not sure as human beings that we are supposed to obtain true peace. I think life is about working towards obtaining peace, but reaching actual “nirvana” would mean you are no longer a part of life as we know it.
I’m chuckling as I think about a conversation I had with an IT guy/wine-pourer a couple of weeks ago. He said to me he had reached nirvana because he does computer work he loves, co-owns a wine store that he loves, lives in a place with kayaking and canoeing and skiing and snowboarding that he loves, and had friends that he loves. Perfection. That is what he believed nirvana was–a bunch of stuff and other people. And though most of the spiritually-inclined know that there is more to inner peace than that, we are constantly being swayed by what is out there in the “real” world–stuff and other people.
And I actually think that is ok. Having a physical body, and a mentally-alert mind, means true peace isn’t possible. But I believe we chose to come here, at this time, to learn lessons, attempt to work at balance between the mind, body, and spirit, and FULLY enjoy all three. True peace is for the spirit alone, after all the lessons have been learned.
8. What does it mean to live in the present moment?
This is probably the hardest thing in the free world for most of us to do. It takes being completely and totally in your body, without the mind pulling you in a different direction. It means paying attention to the nuances felt in your stomach, letting feelings come up and go, not thinking about yesterday or tomorrow, a minute ago or a minute into the future. We live in an era where you constantly have to think ahead and plan, which is the antithesis of living in the moment.
But as the Power Of Now suggests, I believe living in the moment is the ultimate way to deal with depression, health issues, and fear. Nothing holds on tightly when you live in the present.
9. What is our greatest distraction?
Money. Caffeine. Internet. Food. Sex. Cigarettes. Alcohol. Drugs. TV.
Whatever vice(s) a person feels gets them through the day.
10. Is current religion serving its purpose?
If by “current religion” you mean Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Buddhism, Taoism, etc., I think you have to ask each individual about their feelings concerning their certain religion. For a lot of people, their religion is what gets them through life; gives them hope. Nothing wrong with that.
For me, my “religion” stays close to my heart. It is something that took me many years to find, and most people wouldn’t understand it. But one essential aspect that I do like to share is that it doesn’t believe in the duality of good and evil. Yes, there is light and dark, but the only thing you have to do to change the dark to light is to shine a light on the darkness.
This is not to imply that this is an easy feat, but rather to show that NOTHING is black or white–everything is black AND white. And until we can see this reality in everything that surrounds us, and really believe it, we will continue to have war and famine, rape and terrorism, because we believe that these realities are outside of us. Actually, they are within each of us.
11. What happens to you after you die?
I believe that your soul recycles into another physical form somewhere along the continuum of space, time, and karma.
12. Describe heaven and how to get there.
I don’t believe in heaven, per se. I think there is an ultimate destination that is beyond the comprehension of the human mind, and that it takes many, many lifetimes to get there. Essentially, we all go back to one source that is the source of all things–we are just an extension of that source. The source is not good or bad, because duality doesn’t exist.
13. What is the meaning of life?
I think no one can know the ultimate meaning of life, but love is at least a part of it.
14. Describe God.
The Universe is an interconnected web, with all pieces linking back to one source.
15. What is the greatest quality humans possess?
Compassion. Without it, we wouldn’t be able to overcome our survival instinct, one which often gets us into a whole lotta trouble.
16. What is it that prevents people from living to their full potential?
Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of pain. Fear of hurt.
Fear, fear, fear.
17. Noverbally, by motion or gesture only, act out what you believe to be the current condition of the world.
18. What is your one wish for the world?
That we could all truly and absolutely look at each other as equals, and didn’t divide the Earth by borders. That would take care of war, rape, and murder right there.
19. What is wisdom and how do we gain it?
Age and mess-ups. We often look at messing up as a bad thing–a failure–when in reality, it is the ultimate way to learn.
20. Are we all one?
Yes (see #12).










I love reading everyone’s different answers to these questions… it’s challenging me even more to think about why I believe the things I believe.
But I have to ask – why is your version of nirvana any more valid than your IT/winepourer’s? It sounds like he gets meaning out of his work and hobbies, exercises his body, appreciates the nature around him, and has satisfying connections with other people. Sounds pretty well balanced to me!
Rebel, thanks for your comment and question. I guess what I meant by the IT/wine pourer’s beliefs about having reached nirvana (other than the fact that he went on an on about it, which always seems a bit suspect
is that it was all based on exterior values. Any or all of the things that he said brought him happiness could be taken away at any moment. What would he be left with then?
This is not to say that all of those things are an important part of being happy in this life–I very much believe it is about the physical and mental as much as the spiritual in this life. But I think we sometimes believe we are truly happy based on these external circumstances, and then when they are shaken, or taken away, we are left with no internal reserve. So while participating externally, it is important to keep building internally.
I’m more and more amazed by how similar we all are! I enjoyed reading your answers. Here are mine: http://livinginthemystery.blogspot.com/2009/08/20-spiritual-questions-to-ponder.html
Hey Michelle, thanks for posting yours. I tried to leave a comment on your blog, but for some reason it wouldn’t let me. I’ll try again later, but I wanted to say I appreciate reading someone’s answers from the life view of being both an ACOA and in recovery yourself.
Sometimes I think it is almost easier (?) to contemplate spiritual questions after having experienced great loss, sickness, or addiction because we HAVE to in a way. Otherwise, we wouldn’t really be able to make it, I believe. Just a thought…
Hello Christine,
Just browsing, and I had to comment on this piece. You write about spirituality with a simple wisdom and beauty: “I think no one can know the ultimate meaning of life, but love is at least a part of it.”
I will have to come back and read this over a few times, much to think about. Your writing express the views of a sage.
Thanks for this great post!
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